Why Arrange Marriages Are Still Trending in Nepal?

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  • 26 June, 2021
  • Raman Shrestha
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Why Arrange Marriages Are Still Trending in Nepal?

Marriage ceremonies are a significant occurrence in everyone's life, and how they are organized varies greatly across the globe. Arranged marriages continue to be the standard in Nepali culture. When the bride and groom are pre-arranged by their parents and family, it is known as an arranged marriage. Nepal places a high value on arranged marriages as a country that is mostly focused on social practices and traditions. Prior to the wedding day, the bride and groom are unable to see or even see each other's faces.

Arranged marriages are popular in Nepalese Hindu culture, and Hindus believe that marriages are made in heaven. When their son or daughter reaches marriageable age, their parents search for a groom or wife by relatives or people they meet, who is known as middlemen or "Lami" in Nepali. If the groom or bride has been selected, the parents will meet with Astrologers/Priests to determine if the bride and groom is a good match. Both the bride and groom's star signs are paired for this reason. The lami, or middle person, who serves as a messenger for both families, is interested in all aspects of wedding planning.

Going for an arranged marriage can seem a little out of date in these days and age of online dating and love affairs that lead to marriage. Surprisingly, this idea has been a part of our culture for decades and continues to significantly impact our society. Many people want to marry in an arranged marriage. According to the findings of a few surveys, the global divorce rate in arranged marriages is relatively low, which can be why 90% of marriages in Nepal are arranged. So, what makes this traditional method so effective in today's world? Here are several potential explanations.

·       The level of anticipation

You hardly know your companion in an arranged marriage and would take your time to learn more about them. You begin the relationship with low expectations, and both sides observe and change situations in order to make the marriage succeed. In reality, you recognize the person for who he or she is and do not have the right to claim that you dated anyone else before marrying and that he or she changed after the wedding.

·       The Choices

When it comes to arranged marriages, you can be spoiled for options. You will find the right match online when seated in the warmth of your own home with your friends, thanks to matrimonial applications and blogs. It is not required that your intervening relatives or neighbors carry you ‘bihe ko kura' and introduce you to a potential groom or bride's kin. In reality, you have complete control over the process and should search for someone who respects your views and core values.

·       Social compatibility

You don't just marry your partner; you marry his or her whole family, as they suggest. Your parents are concerned about your prospective spouse's cultural heritage, professional credentials, socioeconomic standing, and ability to adapt to a new family, all of which contribute to a smoother married life. You have no choice but to embrace anything in love marriage.

·       The courtship period

The idea of an arranged marriage is changing along with society. Before making a decision, couples prefer to meet several times to discuss their desires from marriage. Not just that, but even families are fine with a long bonding time if it allows the bride and groom to get to know each other better.

·       Parental decision

In the Nepalese context, most of the parents prefer the same religion, caste, and community for the marital relationship of their children. So, they try to arrange their children’s marriage within the same caste and religion. Parents, without a doubt, have more experience with what comes after marriage and know what is right for their children. They have a greater understanding of you, your interests, and the dynamics of this friendship.

If it's love or arranged marriage, you must take a leap of faith and pray for happier family life at the end of the day. Marriage is a gamble because there is no way to know how it will work out. What counts is that no one should be compelled to make this decision and that they should only tie the knot when they are able.